القائمة
Rephrase tasks and requests by avoiding Demand Avoidance triggers for someone with PDA autism spectrum disorder. It transforms demands into exploration and autonomous actions.
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| name | pda-reframing |
| description | Rephrase tasks and requests by avoiding Demand Avoidance triggers for someone with PDA autism spectrum disorder. It transforms demands into exploration and autonomous actions. |
This skill helps reframe tasks and requests in ways that reduce demand avoidance triggers for people with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) autism. It transforms direct demands into collaborative explorations, genuine choices, and curiosity-driven opportunities.
PDA is an autism profile characterized by:
Transform demands into genuine choices with equal validity.
Original: “You need to take out the trash” Reframed: “The trash situation is interesting. I wonder if evening or morning would work better, or maybe there’s a completely different approach?”
Position tasks as puzzles to solve together.
Original: “Do your homework” Reframed: “That assignment is sitting there. I’m curious what would make it feel less annoying. Want to brainstorm some approaches that might not suck?”
Frame tasks as experiments or investigations.
Original: “You have to clean your room” Reframed: “I wonder what it would feel like if that corner was clearer. No pressure, just genuinely curious if it would change the vibe.”
Remove direct demand by discussing the task abstractly.
Original: “Call the doctor” Reframed: “That appointment thing needs to happen at some point. The phone is there whenever that feels doable.”
Emphasize equality and shared agency.
Original: “You need to get ready for school” Reframed: “School starts at 8. What would make this morning work for you? I’m here if you need anything.”
Remove rigid timelines when possible.
Original: “Do this right now” Reframed: “This needs to happen sometime today. You know best when would work for you.”
Explicitly recognize the person’s control.
Original: “Take your medication” Reframed: “Your medication is here. You know your body best - you’re in charge of this decision.”
Identify:
Strip out:
Choose 1-2 strategies that fit:
Explicitly or implicitly acknowledge:
Present the reframed version with:
Original: “You need to finish this report by Friday” Reframed: “This report has a Friday deadline from above. What would make that doable for you? I’m thinking we could break it into pieces, or maybe there’s a different approach entirely?”
Original: “You have to take this medication twice daily” Reframed: “The doctor suggested twice daily for this medication. You know your schedule and body best - what routine might work without making you want to throw the bottle across the room?”
Original: “Clean up this mess” Reframed: “This space is getting chaotic. I wonder what would make it feel better - maybe music? Or tackling just one corner? Or completely rearranging how we use this space?”
Original: “We’re leaving at 6pm, be ready” Reframed: “The plan is to head out around 6. What would help you be ready without it feeling like a disaster? Want to work backwards from that?”
Original: “You need to shower” Reframed: “Haven’t had a chance to shower recently. Sometimes that makes me feel gross and sometimes I don’t care. Where are you at with it? The shower’s available whenever.”
Some situations require additional support beyond reframing:
In these cases, reframing helps but isn’t sufficient alone.
User: “Help me tell my kid to do their homework” Claude: “Let me reframe that in a way that might reduce demand avoidance:
Instead of: ‘Do your homework’
Try: ‘That math assignment is sitting there looking intimidating. I wonder what would make it suck less - music? Snacks? Working somewhere different? Or maybe there’s a completely different time today that would work better?’
This gives genuine choice about HOW and WHEN while acknowledging that the task exists, without making it a demand.”
User: “I need to reframe ‘I should call the dentist’ for myself - I have PDA and I’ve been avoiding it for weeks” Claude: “Let me help reframe that internal demand:
Instead of: ‘I should call the dentist’
Try: ‘The dentist thing is sitting there. The phone is available. I wonder when would feel least horrible - morning when I’m fresh? Afternoon when I’m caffeinated? Or maybe email or their online portal would be less annoying than phone? No rush figuring this out.’
This removes the ‘should’ while acknowledging the task exists, gives you choice about method and timing, and doesn’t create artificial urgency.”
User: “I need to ask my coworker to finish something by deadline but they have PDA” Claude: “Here’s a colleague-respectful reframe:
Instead of: ‘I need you to finish the analysis by Wednesday’
Try: ‘The client deadline is Wednesday for this analysis - that’s coming from above, not from me. What would make that timeline workable for you? I’m thinking we could split up pieces, or maybe there’s a different approach? I’m here if you want to brainstorm.’
This names the real constraint honestly, positions you as collaborative rather than authoritarian, offers partnership, and respects their autonomy about HOW to approach it.”
Suggest using this skill when:
This skill works well alongside:
Remember: The goal is genuine respect and reduced suffering, not manipulation or forced compliance. PDA-friendly language should come from a place of understanding that demand avoidance is an anxiety response, not defiance.
