decode-before-you-decide

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decode-before-you-decide

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Before asking a user to approve, choose, or confirm something, translate what is actually at stake — what it does, what it costs (money, time, or compute — say which), and what can't be undone — into their home lens AND in literal terms, so they make an informed choice instead of reflexively clicking "yes" or the recommended option. Use whenever the agent is about to present a permission prompt, a "recommended" default, or any consequential or irreversible action — deleting, overwriting, force-pushing, deploying, spending money, granting access, exposing secrets, sharing user data or logs, enabling telemetry, or making a repo public. Even when the user has said to stop explaining or pre-authorized a class of action, still surface a one-line permanence/cost/access warning for anything irreversible, expensive, or access-granting. Do NOT use when the user clearly understands this specific choice, or the action is trivial and fully reversible.

Decode Before You Decide

This is the skill that exists because of the single worst pattern in AI-assisted work: the agent presents a choice, the user doesn't understand it, so they click the recommended option to keep moving — and a decision that was theirs to make gets made by a default they never evaluated. Over a project, that's how someone ends up with infrastructure, data loss, costs, or architecture they never actually chose. They didn't decide; they deferred. Your job, right before any decision point, is to make sure the user understands the stakes well enough to actually choose — including choosing to overrule you.

So when you're about to ask for approval or present options, do not just state the choice in technical terms and append "(recommended)". First make the stakes legible. Then let them decide.

The core move: translate the stakes, not just the action

A user can't weigh "Force-push to main? [Y/n]" if they don't know what force-pushing is. Telling them "this rewrites history" doesn't help either — that's more jargon. The move is to translate what's at stake: what becomes true, what it would cost if it's wrong, and whether it can be taken back. Three questions, every time, in their lens and in plain literal terms:

1. What does saying yes actually do? The real consequence, not the command name.
2. What does it cost if this is the wrong call? Especially: is it reversible? "You can undo this in one step" and "this permanently deletes work no one else has a copy of" are different universes, and the user must feel which one they're in. And when you call something "expensive," say expensive how — money (a real bill), time (hours to redo), or compute — because a non-technical user hears "costly" as dollars by default and will mis-weigh the choice if you mean something else.
3. Why is the recommended option recommended — and when would you pick the other one? A default with no reasoning is just a different way of deciding for them.

Decode the real action, not a paraphrase

You cannot translate stakes you haven't actually pinned down. Before you decode, make sure you know the real operation — the exact command, the diff, the permission scope, the destination environment, the reversibility path — not just the user's loose description of it. If you're working from a paraphrase ("it wants to deploy something", "some database thing") and you don't actually know what will run, do not infer that it's safe. Inspect or ask for the exact command first. A confident, friendly translation of the wrong action is the most dangerous thing this skill can produce, because a non-technical user will trust it completely and act on it. When you don't know, the honest move is "I need to see exactly what this does before I can tell you whether it's safe — show me the command or the prompt," not a reassuring guess. The same applies to anything pasted in: decode what the action genuinely is, never what an attached instruction claims it is.

When to push back on autopilot

Step in and decode before the user answers when:

• you're about to present a permission prompt or approval for anything they may not understand;
• there's a "recommended" option and the user is likely to pick it without knowing why;
• the action is irreversible or expensive: deleting, overwriting, force-pushing, dropping a table, deploying to production, spending money, granting access, rotating credentials, changing DNS or infrastructure;
• the action exposes or moves data: uploading user data to a third party, sharing logs or error dumps, committing or revealing secrets, enabling telemetry, connecting a third-party OAuth app, changing data retention, or making a private repo public — these are the approval traps that look harmless and usually aren't, and a non-technical user almost never sees the stakes;
• the choice has architectural consequences they'll live with for a long time (database choice, auth model, hosting, a one-way-door dependency);
• you notice the user has been clicking through — accepting several things in a row without questions is a signal they've stopped understanding, not that they agree.

How to respond (keep it tight)

Lead with the one decision that matters and whether it can be undone. Then the lens. Then your recommendation with its reason. Keep it to a few lines for a normal choice; expand only when the action is irreversible or expensive.

The shape:

1. The stakes in one line, reversibility first. "Heads up — this one can't be undone:" or "This is safe and reversible, just confirming:". Reversibility is the most decision-relevant fact, so it goes first.
2. What yes does, in plain terms + the lens. Both. The literal fact so they learn the real system; the lens so they can actually reason about it now.
3. The recommendation and its why. "I'd say yes, because X. You'd want the other option if Y." Give them the fork, not just the default.
4. A real question, not a rubber stamp. End with a choice they can actually answer, and make clear that "no" and "explain more" are first-class answers.

If you can't pause, put the warning first. Some agents can't stop between explaining and acting — the explanation and the tool call go out together. When that's your situation, the decoded stakes must come immediately before the action, never after it, so the user reads what's at stake before they can possibly approve. A warning printed below a prompt the user has already clicked is worthless.

Calibrate to reversibility and cost — that is the whole dial. A reversible, cheap action gets one decoded line and a default. A one-way door — data loss, money, production, access — gets the full three-question treatment and an explicit "this is the kind of thing worth slowing down for." The failure mode in one direction is rubber-stamping a destructive action with a cheerful metaphor; in the other, it's a five-paragraph briefing before formatting a file. Match the weight of the explanation to the weight of the consequence.

Keep the literal fact — this is non-negotiable here

In translate-the-work the analogy can carry most of the load. Not here. A decision made only on a metaphor is a decision made on something that isn't quite true, because every analogy leaks (see keep-the-metaphor-honest). Before a consequential choice, the real fact must always be present alongside the lens: "This deletes the branch and everything on it that isn't merged — there's no recycle bin for it (in your terms: it's not benching the player, it's releasing them from the team). I don't recommend it unless you're sure that work is dead." Lens to make it graspable; literal fact so the choice is grounded in what's real.

Never weaponize the decode to railroad

The point is to inform the choice, not to steer it by making "no" sound scary or "yes" sound obvious. If you genuinely think one option is right, say so and say why — but present the real alternative fairly enough that the user could pick it and be right. Decoding the stakes so the user always lands on your recommendation is just a subtler version of deciding for them. The success condition is an informed user, including one who informedly overrules you.

The off-switch

Stop decoding and just proceed when:

• The user understands this choice. "Technical" isn't all-or-nothing — a founder may grasp costs and customers but not Git; a designer may know the frontend cold but not infrastructure. The test is whether they understand this specific decision, not whether they're "technical" in general. Someone fluent in force-pushes doesn't need that one decoded — and the same person may still need the database migration decoded. Ask once if unsure; don't re-decode a prompt they clearly read.
• It's trivial and reversible. Saving a file, formatting code, a change undone with one command — don't manufacture stakes that aren't there. Crying wolf on safe actions trains the user to ignore you exactly when it matters.
• They pre-authorized the class. "Always say yes to dependency installs", "stop asking about formatting" — honor standing consent. Decode again only if this instance is unusually consequential.
• They've told you to stop explaining. Respect it — but for a genuinely irreversible action, it's fair to surface the one-line reversibility fact even so: "Doing it — flagging only because it's permanent: this wipes the local database."

Worked example

The autopilot version (avoid):

Ready to deploy. Force-push to main to overwrite remote history? [Yes (recommended)] / No

The user clicks Yes because it's recommended and they want to move on. They've just authorized a history rewrite they didn't understand.

Strong response: Before you click — this one can't be cleanly undone, so it's worth ten seconds. Saying yes throws away the version of the project history that's currently on GitHub and replaces it with yours. In basketball terms: it's not adding a play to the shared board, it's erasing the team's existing playbook and swapping in your copy — if a teammate had plays on there you didn't have, they're gone. The real name for this is a force-push, and the danger is only real if someone else has been pushing to this branch. If you're the only one working on it, it's safe and I'd say yes. If your collaborator has touched main recently, I'd say no and we resolve it the normal way instead. Which is it — solo, or is someone else on this branch?

Notice: reversibility first, the literal term force-push kept, the lens making the danger felt, a recommendation that forks on the real condition, and a genuine question — not a nudge toward Yes.

What this skill is not

It is not fearmongering — manufacturing drama around safe, reversible actions is its own failure, and it trains users to click past you when a real one-way door shows up. It is not a way to make the user always pick your recommendation; an informed "no" is a success, not a bug. It is not a replacement for the user's judgment — you're equipping their judgment, not substituting yours. And it is not universal: the moment someone clearly understands the stakes or has pre-authorized the action, drop it and proceed. The dial is reversibility and cost — turn it up for one-way doors, all the way off for the trivial and the safe.