bereavement-support

name	bereavement-support
description	Produces structured logistics frameworks for the immediate aftermath of a death and ongoing practical support for the bereaved, covering notification lists, arrangement decisions, document collection, estate tasks, and long-term administrative transitions. Focuses on the practical steps and organizational tasks, not grief therapy or emotional processing. Use when the user asks about what to do after someone dies, managing the logistics after a death, or organizing practical support for a bereaved person. Do NOT use for grief counseling, emotional processing of loss, or estate legal advice (consult an attorney for probate).
license	Apache-2.0
metadata	{"author":"foundry-skills","version":"1.0.0","tags":"elder-care mental-wellness strategy","category":"family-relationships","subcategory":"caregiving","depends":"","disclaimer":"none","difficulty":"intermediate"}

Bereavement Support Framework

Losing someone is one of life's most difficult experiences, and the practical demands that follow can feel overwhelming when grief is fresh. This framework covers the logistical and administrative tasks that need attention after a death, organized by urgency and timeline. It is not grief therapy and does not attempt to guide emotional processing. For ongoing grief support, a licensed therapist or grief counselor can provide the individualized care that goes beyond what any checklist offers. The frameworks below are intended to reduce the logistical burden so the bereaved can focus on what matters most.

When to Use

Use this skill when:

• User asks about what needs to happen after someone dies (practical steps)
• User wants a checklist for managing affairs after a death in the family
• User asks about notification lists, funeral arrangements, or estate administration tasks
• User wants to organize practical support for a grieving friend or family member
• User needs help tracking the administrative tasks that follow a death

Do NOT use this skill when:

• User needs grief counseling or emotional support processing (therapist needed)
• User asks about estate law, probate process, or will interpretation (attorney needed)
• User needs help with life insurance claims disputes (insurance advocate or attorney)
• User asks about end-of-life medical decisions (physician and ethics consultation)
• User wants help writing a eulogy or obituary content (writing skills)

Process

1. Manage the immediate aftermath (first 24-48 hours). These tasks are time-sensitive:

   If Death Occurs at Home:

   • Call 911 or the hospice nurse if the person was under hospice care (hospice pronounces death and manages initial steps)
   • Do NOT call the funeral home until after official pronouncement
   • If the person was an organ donor, contact the organ procurement organization (noted on driver's license or donor registry)
   • Once death is officially pronounced, contact the funeral home or mortuary to arrange transport

   If Death Occurs at a Hospital or Facility:

   • The facility handles pronouncement and initial documentation
   • Ask the facility for guidance on next steps and timing
   • Provide the funeral home's name and contact to the facility for coordination

   Immediate Notifications (First 24 Hours):

   • Immediate family members (in person or by phone, not text)
   • Close friends of the deceased
   • Employer of the deceased (if applicable)
   • Employer of the bereaved (request time off)
   • Religious or spiritual leader (if desired for support and ceremony planning)
   • Attorney (if the deceased had one, especially if a will or trust exists)

   Do Not Handle Yet:

   • Financial accounts and transfers (wait for death certificate)
   • Clearing out the home or belongings
   • Making major personal decisions (moving, job changes)

2. Make arrangement decisions (days 1-3). These decisions are needed quickly but should not be rushed:

   Funeral/Memorial Service Decisions:

Output Format

## Bereavement Logistics Plan

### Immediate Tasks (24-48 Hours)
- [ ] [Task with responsible person]

### Notifications Made
| Person/Organization | Contacted | Date | Notes |
|---------------------|-----------|------|-------|
| [Name] | [Yes/No] | [Date] | [Notes] |

### Arrangement Decisions
- **Service type:** [Decision]
- **Date and location:** [Details]
- **Officiant:** [Name]

### Documents Collected
| Document | Status | Location |
|----------|--------|----------|
| Death certificates (X copies) | [Ordered/Received] | [Location] |
| [Document] | [Status] | [Location] |

### Account Closures and Transfers
| Account | Institution | Status | Death Cert Sent | Date Completed |
|---------|------------|--------|-----------------|----------------|
| [Account] | [Name] | [Pending/Complete] | [Yes/No] | [Date] |

### Support Coordination (for support team)
| Task | Volunteer | Date | Status |
|------|-----------|------|--------|
| [Task] | [Name] | [Date] | [Done/Scheduled] |

### Ongoing Administrative Timeline
- Month 1: [Tasks]
- Month 2-3: [Tasks]
- Month 4-6: [Tasks]
- Month 6-12: [Tasks]

Rules

1. NEVER provide grief counseling or attempt to guide emotional processing -- this skill covers logistics only; grief support requires a trained professional
2. NEVER provide legal advice about estates, probate, or will interpretation -- attorney guidance is essential for estate administration
3. ALWAYS include the professional grief support recommendation in every bereavement plan -- it is not optional
4. ALWAYS include the immediate notification list with priority ordering (family first, then close friends, then professional contacts)
5. Include the death certificate quantity recommendation (10-15 copies) in every plan -- running out of certified copies delays financial and legal processes
6. ALWAYS include identity theft prevention steps -- deceased persons are frequent targets for identity theft
7. Include the practical support framework whenever the user is helping a bereaved person (specific offers, not vague availability)
8. Present account closures and notifications in a tracking table -- the list is long enough that items get lost without systematic tracking
9. NEVER put a timeline on grief or suggest when the person "should" be past the loss
10. Include the "what to avoid saying" guidance when the user is supporting someone else through bereavement

Edge Cases

• Unexpected or sudden death: When the death is sudden (accident, heart attack, violence), the bereaved may be in shock during the period when time-sensitive decisions are needed. Priority: identify one or two people who can handle logistics while the bereaved processes the immediate shock. Push arrangement decisions to day 2-3 if possible. If the death is under investigation (accident, crime), additional coordination with law enforcement is required before funeral arrangements can proceed.

• Death with no will or estate plan: When no will exists, the estate is distributed according to the jurisdiction's intestacy laws. The court appoints an administrator (typically the surviving spouse or next of kin). The process is longer and more expensive than with a will. Attorney consultation is especially critical in this scenario. Priority: file for administrator appointment promptly to gain legal authority to manage the estate.

• Death of a child or young person: The logistics differ: there may be no estate to administer, but there are still accounts to close, belongings to manage, and notifications to make. The bereaved (parents) are likely in acute grief that makes any logistics feel impossible. The support team should handle as much as possible. Include: canceling school enrollment, notifying the child's social circle and their parents, and managing social media (friends may post without realizing). Professional grief support is not optional in this scenario -- it is essential and should begin within the first week if the bereaved is willing.

• Distant or estranged family: When family relationships are complicated (estrangement, conflict, distant relatives who surface after the death), the logistics become interpersonal minefields. The will (if it exists) is the authoritative document for asset distribution. If there is no will, intestacy laws apply regardless of relationship quality. The executor or administrator makes logistical decisions; they do not need consensus from all family members to proceed. If conflict is severe, an estate attorney can serve as a neutral party.

• Supporting someone long-term (months after the death): Most support disappears within 2-4 weeks, but grief persists for months or years. For long-term support: mark the anniversary, birthday, and holidays on your calendar and reach out on those days. Continue to mention the deceased by name (the bereaved wants to know their person is not skipped). Offer practical help during the first holiday season (this is often the hardest period). If you notice persistent inability to function (not eating, not leaving the house, substance use changes) after 6+ months, gently suggest professional grief support.

Example

Input: "My father just passed away yesterday. I'm the oldest child and everyone is looking to me to handle things. I don't know where to start."

Output:

Bereavement Logistics Plan for Dad

First, you do not have to handle everything alone, and you do not have to handle everything today. Below is an organized plan that separates the truly urgent tasks from those that can wait. The goal is to prevent anything from falling through the cracks while giving you and your family space to grieve.

Today and Tomorrow (24-48 Hours)

Completed or In Progress:

• Death has been officially pronounced (hospital, hospice, or coroner)
• Funeral home has been contacted for transport

Notifications (Today -- Phone Calls, Not Texts):

• Immediate family: siblings, surviving parent (if applicable), spouse/partner
• Dad's closest friends (ask a sibling or family friend to help with calls)
• Dad's employer (if he was still working)
• Your employer (request bereavement leave)
• Dad's religious or spiritual community leader (if applicable)
• Dad's attorney (if he had one -- ask about a will)

Delegate Now: Identify one person for each of these roles:

• Communications coordinator: Handles incoming calls and messages so you do not have to repeat the news. Sends group updates.
• Logistics helper: Manages food deliveries, coordinates family travel, handles pet care
• Research helper: Looks up funeral home pricing, veterans' benefits (if applicable), and death certificate ordering

Days 2-3: Arrangement Decisions

Before Meeting with Funeral Home:

• Check if Dad had pre-arranged funeral plans (check his files, ask his attorney, ask if he mentioned wishes)
• Check for a will (may specify burial/cremation preferences)
• Gather input from siblings and family on service preferences
• Determine budget for services

At the Funeral Home:

• Request the itemized price list (they are legally required to provide this)
• Order 12-15 certified copies of the death certificate (you will need one for every bank, insurance company, and government agency)
• Make decisions on: burial or cremation, service type and date, viewing, flowers, obituary publication

Days 3-7: Document Gathering

Start locating these documents (check Dad's home, safe deposit box, attorney's office):

• Will or trust documents
• Life insurance policies (check employer benefits too)
• Bank and investment account information
• Property deeds and vehicle titles
• Social Security number
• Military discharge papers (DD-214) if he served
• Tax returns (past 3 years)
• Insurance policies (health, home, auto)

Weeks 2-4: Notifications and Claims (After Death Certificates Arrive)

Task	Death Cert Needed	Status
Social Security Administration (survivor benefits inquiry)	Yes	[ ]
Life insurance claim(s)	Yes	[ ]
Bank accounts (notify, do not close yet)	Yes	[ ]
Credit card companies	Yes	[ ]
Mortgage company	Yes	[ ]
DMV (cancel license, transfer vehicles)	Yes	[ ]
Health insurance	Yes	[ ]
Pension/retirement accounts	Yes	[ ]
Utility companies	No	[ ]
Postal service (mail forwarding)	No	[ ]
Cancel subscriptions and memberships	No	[ ]
Credit bureaus (deceased alert)	Yes	[ ]

What Can Wait (Months 2-6)

Do not worry about these now:

• Clearing out Dad's home or belongings (no rush -- take the time you need)
• Filing his final tax return (due April 15 of next year)
• Estate distribution (your attorney will guide the timeline)
• Major personal decisions (do not make life changes in the first 6 months if you can avoid it)

Professional Support

• Attorney: If Dad had a will, contact his attorney within the first week. If no will exists, consult an estate attorney about probate.
• Grief support: When you are ready (no timeline -- it could be next week or next month), a grief counselor can provide support that is specifically for you, not just for managing logistics. Many people find that the logistics keep them busy initially, and the grief hits hardest after the tasks slow down.
• Financial advisor: If Dad's estate includes investments, property, or complex assets, a financial advisor can help with the transition alongside the attorney.

Identity Theft Prevention

• Notify all three credit bureaus to place a deceased alert (within 30 days)
• Monitor Dad's credit for 12 months
• Cancel email accounts that are not being monitored
• Shred sensitive documents after they are no longer needed for the estate