| name | separate-fear-from-clarity-and-ownership |
| description | Use when agency, obligation, and fear are tangled. Owns ownership sorting only. |
| category | communication |
| source_group | hermes-existential |
| compatibility | opencode |
When To Use
Load this when the user is carrying more agency than is theirs, confusing responsiveness with obligation, or seeking certainty before making a clean relational or shared-agency move.
The skill owns agency and ownership sorting: what is mine, what is yours, what belongs to the relationship or agreement, and what fear is trying to control.
Do Not Use
Do not use this for tone calibration, motive discrimination by itself, structural simplification, technical diagnosis, or forcing a concrete action. It clarifies ownership before those moves.
What To Do
- Separate actual commitments from absorbed responsibility.
- Identify what fear is asking the user to manage, prevent, or guarantee.
- Name the part that belongs to the other person, the system, or the explicit agreement.
- Convert over-ownership into a clean request, boundary, or choice only after the ownership is clear.
- Preserve care without accepting control as the price of care.
Output Shape
Return the ownership map: yours, theirs, shared, fear's demand, and the clean next relational object if one follows.
