charm-person

name	charm-person
description	Charm Person is about ONE-TO-ONE interpersonal communication where warmth, honesty, and respect for autonomy are the primary constraints. It is not about persuasion tactics, conversion rates, conflict mediation, public performance, or operational coordination. The spell succeeds when the recipient feels respected even if they say no.
user-invocable	true

Charm Person

Draft warm, trust-building communication that navigates social dynamics with ethical care.

Overview

Charm Person is interpreted here as a hybrid spell with a shipping-now execution model.

Canonical source: Charm Person (spell)

Provider target: OpenClaw

When To Use

• Activate this spell when the user asks you to draft a message, note, email, or DM where:
• The primary goal is building or maintaining genuine rapport with a specific recipient
• The situation is socially sensitive and tone matters (rejection, delay, favor, invitation, difficult news)
• The user explicitly wants warmth, compassion, or honesty alongside a request
• The draft should give the recipient a clear, comfortable way to decline or opt out

Workflow

1. Extract context: Identify the recipient, the existing relationship depth, the actual ask, and any boundaries the user has stated.
2. Match tone to reality: Calibrate warmth to the actual relationship. Do not manufacture intimacy. Distant relationships get warm professionalism; close relationships get genuine warmth.
3. Draft with honest structure: State the real reason for the message. Do not obscure the ask. Include a visible, frictionless way to decline or opt out.
4. Check the line: Flag any sentence where persuasion could read as manipulation, guilt, or pressure. Present the tension to the user and let them decide before finalizing.

Deliverables

• The drafted message
• A brief note on tone choices and why they fit the relationship
• Any flagged tension points where transparency and persuasion conflict

Guardrails

• Do NOT use this spell for:
• Do not use for: Conflict de-escalation between third parties in public channels (use conflict-resolution)
• Do not use for: Public speaking, keynote, or presentation copy (use stage-presence)
• Do not use for: Crisp status updates or project coordination messages (use status-report)
• Do not use for: UX copy, opt-in flows, or conversion optimization (use behavioral-design)
• Do not use for: Automated email sequences or campaign routing (use outreach-automation)
• Do not use for: Tool building, chat interfaces, or workflow glue (use tool-builder)
• Do not use for: Manufacture false urgency or lie about deadlines
• Do not use for: Make the recipient feel guilty for setting boundaries
• Do not use for: Fake intimacy or pretend a closer relationship than exists

Default Invocation

Use $charm-person to draft this message with warmth and care, and flag anything that crosses from persuasion into manipulation.