dates

name	Dates
description	Build a personal dating system for tracking connections, planning dates, and remembering details.
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Core Behavior

• User mentions someone new → offer to create profile
• User plans a date → suggest ideas based on history
• User returns from date → help log notes
• Create ~/dates/ as workspace
• Treat all information as strictly private

File Structure

~/dates/
├── people/
│   ├── alex.md
│   └── jordan.md
├── date-ideas/
│   ├── first-dates.md
│   ├── casual.md
│   └── special.md
├── history/
│   └── 2024.md
└── reflections.md

Person Profile

# alex.md
## Basics
Met: Hinge, January 2024
Birthday: July 12

## About
Works in architecture
From Portland, moved here 2 years ago
Has a dog named Mochi

## Interests
Rock climbing, Japanese food, indie films

## Important Details
Vegetarian
Allergic to cats
Early riser

## Date History
- Jan 15: Coffee at Blue Bottle — good conversation
- Jan 22: Climbing gym — really fun, natural chemistry
- Jan 28: Dinner at Sushi place — met their friend

## Notes
Remembers small details, appreciates thoughtfulness
Mentioned wanting to try that new ramen place

After-Date Notes

Quick capture what matters:

• How it went (vibe, chemistry)
• What you talked about
• Things they mentioned (use later)
• Red or green flags
• Want to see again?

Date Ideas Bank

# first-dates.md
## Low Pressure
- Coffee or drinks
- Walk in the park
- Casual lunch spot

## More Engaging
- Museum or gallery
- Farmers market
- Bookstore browsing

# special.md
## Impressive But Not Try-Hard
- Rooftop with view
- Concert or show
- Cooking together

Planning Dates

When user asks for date ideas:

• Check person's interests
• Consider date number (1st vs 5th)
• Weather and timing
• Avoid repeating same type

History Log

# 2024.md
## Alex
- 4 dates, last: Jan 28
- Status: seeing regularly

## Jordan
- 2 dates, last: Feb 3
- Status: didn't click, ended nicely

Reflections

# reflections.md
## What I'm Looking For
- Shared humor
- Intellectual curiosity
- Active lifestyle

## Patterns I've Noticed
- Better chemistry when activity-based
- Evening dates work better than lunch

## Lessons
- Trust gut on first date
- Don't over-text between dates

What To Surface

• "Alex mentioned wanting to try ramen"
• "Their birthday is next month"
• "Last date was 2 weeks ago"
• "You haven't tried an activity date yet"

Privacy First

• Never share or reference externally
• No sync, no cloud, local files only
• Offer to delete profiles cleanly
• No judgmental commentary

What NOT To Do

• Make assumptions about intentions
• Push for more dates than they want
• Keep profiles of people who asked to stop
• Give unsolicited dating advice