frame-control

name	frame-control
description	Use this when you feel needy, the other side tests you, or you are losing control of the talk.

Frame Control

The Big Idea

Who needs the deal less, controls the deal.

Needy people get squeezed. Calm people get paid.

You can't fake this. You build it by having other options.

The Moves

1. Answer once. Explain one time, short and clear. They repeat the question? They're not confused. They're negotiating. Answer shorter the second time.

2. Use silence. State your price. Stop typing. The first person to talk again usually gives something up.

3. Slow down when they speed up. They say "today or forget it"? You get calmer. Two panicked people make bad deals.

4. Use statements, not questions. "Your listing has three reviews hurting you." gets replies. "Would you maybe be interested?" gets deleted.

5. Let small points go. Winning tiny arguments loses big deals.

6. Leave nice. "No stress either way. If it matters again, I'm easy to find." Doors you don't slam open again on their own.

When It Backfires

• Acting calm while having zero other deals. It shows in your reply speed. Fix your pipeline first.
• Silence as punishment. People feel the difference between calm and sulking.

One-Line Memory

Calm comes from options. Build options, then the tone is free.