social-physics-filter

name	social-physics-filter
description	Unified boundary enforcement, interpersonal diagnostic, and relational audit engine. Absorbs 40 psychology + 2 social protocols and all relationship case studies.
vibe	The nervous system replays what is familiar, not what is healthy.
context_trigger	friend, relationship, frustrated, boundary, intimacy, hurt, toxic, schema, IFS, parts, wound, attachment, validation, lonely, rejection, dating, confrontation, ghosted, narcissist, people-pleasing, codependent
auto-invoke	true
model	default
source	Retroactively compiled from 1,900+ sessions (2025-2026) via skill-compiler
compiled_from	protocols/psychology/PSY-*, protocols/social/SOC-*, skills/therapeutic-ifs, skills/consiglieri-protocol
absorbs	therapeutic-ifs, consiglieri-protocol
meta_patterns	["MP-5","MP-8","MP-10","MP-14"]
pinned	true

Social Physics Filter — Boundary Enforcement & Relational Diagnostics

Compiled: 2026-05-11 (retroactive synthesis of 42+ protocols) Problem Class: All interpersonal dynamics — friendships, romantic relationships, client boundaries, family patterns, social contracts, and the psychological schemas that distort rational decision-making. Axiom: "The nervous system replays what is FAMILIAR, not what is HEALTHY. Unexamined wounds select for partners/clients/deals that re-inflict the wound."

When to Use

Invoke whenever the user mentions:

• Relationship frustration, boundary violations, or interpersonal conflict
• Feelings of rejection, loneliness, validation-seeking, or people-pleasing
• Analysis of someone's behavior or motives
• Dating/relationship dynamics
• Schema therapy, IFS, or parts work
• "Am I overreacting?" / "Is this normal?" / "What should I do about [person]?"

Solution Architecture

Module 1: The Wound-Selection Diagnostic (MP-8)

The Core Loop:

Unexamined wound/schema → pattern-matching bias
  → Selects for FAMILIAR, not HEALTHY
    → Familiar option re-inflicts the wound
      → Pain reinforces the schema
        → Selection bias deepens → Loop continues

The One Question: "Is this FAMILIAR or is this HEALTHY?"

If the attraction/comfort is based on familiarity with a painful pattern, the wound is selecting.

Module 2: The Pryce Protocol (6-Point Meta-Awareness Diagnostic)

Before ANY high-stakes social action:

Gate	Check	Red Flag
1. Emotional Temperature	"Am I in a regulated state?"	Flooded/activated = delay 24 hrs
2. Projection Check	"Am I seeing THEM or my schema?"	If it feels like a past wound, it IS the schema
3. Audience Check	"Who am I performing for?"	If an invisible audience exists, pause
4. Exit Test	"Can I walk away clean?"	If not, you're hostage
5. STFU Clause	"Will saying this improve the structural outcome?"	If no strategic gain, STFU
6. Blast Radius Audit	"Who else gets hurt?"	Collateral damage > 2 people = full stop

Module 3: IFS Parts Mapping (PSY-128)

When emotional flooding occurs, decompose into parts:

Part	Function	Typical Manifestation
Protector (Firefighter)	Emergency response	Anger, withdrawal, numbing, overwork
Manager	Preemptive control	People-pleasing, perfectionism, hypervigilance
Exile	Carries the original wound	Shame, abandonment terror, worthlessness
Self	The regulated observer	Curiosity, compassion, clarity, calm

Protocol:

1. Notice the activation (which part is driving?)
2. Ask: "What is this part trying to protect me from?"
3. Acknowledge the part's intention (it's trying to help)
4. Access Self-energy (curiosity, not judgment)
5. Ask the exile: "What do you need me to know?"

Module 4: The Relationship Tier Audit (PSY-158)

Classify all relationships into structural tiers:

Tier	Definition	Investment Level
Tier 1 (Inner Circle)	Reciprocal, high-trust, crisis-tested	Maximum — they get access to vulnerability
Tier 2 (Functional)	Reliable for specific contexts	Moderate — context-specific trust
Tier 3 (Peripheral)	Pleasant but untested	Minimal — social pleasantries only
Tier 4 (Toxic/Extraction)	Takes more than gives, violates boundaries	ZERO — enforce boundary or exit

Upgrade/Downgrade Criteria:

• Upgrade: Demonstrated reciprocity under stress
• Downgrade: Boundary violation, non-reciprocity confirmed via revealed preference (Law #3)
• Exit: Pattern of extraction with no structural correction

Module 5: The Schema Deconstruction Stack (PSY-196)

Core Schemas Identified (from 1,900+ sessions):

Schema	Manifestation	Source	Counter-Protocol
Peer Validation Gap	Seeking peer validation	Developmental gap	Recognize the search pattern (§294)
Good Boy Paradox	Compliance loop → resentment	Conditional approval	Sovereign boundary enforcement (PSY-122)
Vending Machine	"If I give enough, they'll give back"	Transactional intimacy belief	Law #3: actions > words. Stop depositing.
Hope Override	Continuing despite negative data	Emotional attachment > rational analysis	CS-012: "Hope > Data" = self-deception
Deterministic Logic Error	"If I do X perfectly, Y MUST happen"	Control illusion	PSY-197: Outcomes are stochastic, not deterministic

Module 6: The Adult-to-Adult Communication Rewriter (PSY-20)

Before sending ANY emotionally charged message, run through:

ORIGINAL (Raw emotion):  "You always do this..."
  ↓
STRUCTURAL REWRITE:
  1. Observation (fact): "When X happened..."
  2. Impact (feeling): "I felt Y..."
  3. Need (structural): "I need Z going forward..."
  4. Request (concrete): "Can we agree to [specific behavior]?"

The STFU Override: If the rewrite provides no strategic gain, do NOT send. Silence is often the highest-leverage move.

Output Template

SOCIAL PHYSICS REPORT
─────────────────────
Situation:        [Description]
Wound Check:      [Familiar / Healthy — schema identified: ...]
Pryce Protocol:   [6 gates: ✅/⚠️/❌ per gate]
Parts Active:     [Protector / Manager / Exile — which is driving?]
Relationship Tier: [1 / 2 / 3 / 4 — upgrade/downgrade/exit?]
Schema Match:     [Which schema is operating?]
Communication:    [Adult-to-Adult rewrite provided / STFU recommended]

VERDICT: [ENGAGE / BOUNDARY / EXIT / STFU]

Absorbed Protocol Index

Psychology (40)

PSY-107 (Integrated Therapeutic Mode), PSY-113 (Missing Baseline), PSY-114 (Limerent Reality Distortion), PSY-120 (Power Inversion), PSY-122 (Good Boy Paradox), PSY-128 (IFS), PSY-134 (Symbolic Transmutation), PSY-158 (Relationship Tier Audit), PSY-159 (Augmentation Circuit Breaker), PSY-186 (SOEP), PSY-189 (Correct Container), PSY-191 (Heavy-Light Game), PSY-194 (Three-Mode Calibration), PSY-195 (Friend Portfolio), PSY-196 (Schema Deconstruction), PSY-197 (Deterministic Logic Error), PSY-20 (Adult-Adult), PSY-22 (Divine Call Archaeology), PSY-25 (Reliving vs Processing), and 21 more.

Social (2)

SOC-155 (Imperviousness Audit), SOC-LinkedIn (Publication Strategy)

Absorbed Skills

• therapeutic-ifs → IFS parts mapping + schema deconstruction
• consiglieri-protocol → Pryce Test + STFU Clause + Blast Radius Audit

Key Case Studies

CS-004 ([PRIVATE]), CS-007 ([Location A] Solipsism), CS-008 (FA Extraction), CS-009 (Plausible Deniability), CS-011 (Friendship Forensics), CS-012 (Hope Override), CS-014 (Compliance Loop [Subject A]), CS-050 (Samchoon Arrested Development), CS-056 (Weaponized Vulnerability [Subject B]), CS-063 ([Subject B]-[Subject C] Analysis), CS-086 (Ex-Friend Reality Gap), CS-094 ([Subject B] Sorry-Babe Trap), CS-112 ([Subject B] Paradox Deep Dive), CS-113 (The 14-Day Silence), CS-115 (The Haunting Invalidation), CS-134 ([Subject B] Protocol), CS-166 ([Subject D] Relational Audit), CS-168 ([Subject D] Audit [Subject B]), CS-194 (Dating Portfolio), CS-197 (Relationship Dollar Fallacy), CS-207 (Bilateral Validation Spiral), CS-221 (Pryce Protocol), CS-225 (Suicidal Ideation Mechanic), CS-229 (Form-Substance Gap Loneliness), CS-232 (Projected Intent Pattern), CS-233 (NSF Relationship Void), CS-261 (Unicorn Fallacy), CS-403 ([Subject B] Revealed Preference), CS-406 (Replacement Fallacy), CS-444 (Situationship Fallacy), CS-453 (Soulful Stoic), CS-565 (Bionic IFS Auxiliary Self)

Failure Modes & Mitigations

Failure	Mitigation
Emotional Flooding	Pryce Gate 1: If not regulated, DELAY 24 hrs. No exceptions.
Schema Hijack	If it feels "familiar," the wound is selecting. Run Module 1.
Vending Machine Loop	Law #3 audit: Are their ACTIONS reciprocal? Words are irrelevant.
Hope Override	CS-012: If data says no, hope doesn't change the math.
Sunk Cost in Relationships (MP-14)	"Would I START this relationship today?" If no, the decision is made.

Validated Patterns (Empirical)

• [V] The 14-Day Silence Test: If someone can go 14 days without initiating contact, their revealed preference is clear. | Reapply: Any ambiguous relationship.
• [V] Schema repetition across domains: The same wound that selects avoidant friends ALSO selects extractive clients. Fix the wound, fix both. | Reapply: When client dynamics mirror personal patterns.
• [V] STFU > Confrontation: In 4/5 historically analyzed confrontations, silence produced better outcomes than direct engagement. | Reapply: Every urge to "set the record straight."
• [V] Bionic IFS Failover (CS-565): When biological flooding overwhelms, offload the Self-energy function to the AI system (silicon substrate). | Reapply: Any emotional crisis where clarity is needed NOW.

References

• META_PATTERNS.md — MP-8 (Wound-Selects-For-Itself)
• bionic-decision-engine — For decisions involving people
• CS-565 — Bionic IFS Architecture